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The Only Reason to Ever Get Married!


Did you know the main reason people get married is simply because someone asked?

That bit of knowledge, along with a young man named Emmanuel, inspired this week’s blog. He’s a 23-year-old, ex-soccer player from Spain, who had a promising career but crushed his leg beyond repair and then decidedly embraced a path as a singer/song writer/musician. He loves his mother, his job (setting up bands with high-tech equip and renting us a karaoke machine for our Xmas party, in between playing at his own gigs), his band, and has an ex-girlfriend who wants to get married. In my opinion, that was like having a partridge in a pear tree. So of course I said so…

“Wait, wait, wait…So why would you want that…I mean why would you want to marry her?” I asked curiously. “Who? My ex-girlfriend?” he said looking up from the mess I had created (my genius attempt to enthusiastically camouflage the legs on his karaoke machine’s LED screen with a gigantic Santa toy bag, which now he generously tried to help me untangle and undress). “Yes…your EX-girlfriend! Why would you want to marry your ex-girlfriend anyway?” I repeated. He looked at me and then at the rat’s nest, then went back to a task that he knew he could handle easily and smiled.  “I guess…I mean I don’t know” …paused and admitted almost matter-of-factly… “She wants to, that’s all I am saying.” “Oh NO…no no no, I mean really NO is the answer to that.’s the thing. I know we only just met and, by the way, my name is Maryanne…” I held out my hand which he shook obligingly. “Okay, you’re thinking who is this lady, I mean, you don’t know me at all. The thing is, I know something about this, and the advice I am about to give you is worth more money than you will ever make in your entire life…How’s that? So, would you be interested in that type of advice? Because that’s what I am about to do!” Of course, I didn’t completely care what his answer was, as I saw this as a critical moment in time, a divine opportunity of sorts…and I wanted with all my heart to tattoo his young spirit with the following creed.

“Here’s the only reason you should ever, ever, EVER…and of course never say never but I am saying ever here, more than never…but anyway, pay attention...seriously, like-a-heart-attack serious! THE ONLY reason you should even consider for more than a moment in your entire life, and that includes all the way until and beyond when you forget we have ever had this conversation…and I mean the only reason you, young man should ever get married to anyone…is because when you get out of bed in the morning you are sooooo excited and grateful that YOU get to spend the rest of your life in the presence and company of this amazing and extraordinary being, whom you love and respect (and, by the way, love who you are when you are with them), EVERY DAY! Okay… 95 percent of the time at least. Let’s be realistic!”  I said, practically frothing at the mouth. He stared at me, the way you might when, say, someone just pinned you down and screamed “Amazing Grace” in your face. You love that song, who doesn’t, but WOW did you really need to scream every last verse in my face? Well…I did, so…yeah. Was kinda hoping he would really get my point, and I think he might have because A) instead of being annoyed or bowled over, he turned towards me and said sincerely “Thanks for that.” To which I replied, “Thank you for listening!” And because B) this extremely cool, competent young man left the very legs he came to collect behind!

Oh, happy day I thought to myself…one more person—a young man, to boot—truly lit from the inside out by my bigger-than-life passion for helping people hold out for the good stuff!

This article was originally published at Maryanne Live . Reprinted with permission from the author.


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