Yes, we are safe from many ailments in relationship for a while, but most of us come to find, "wherever you go, there you are." Eventually, whether in relationship or not, whatever shadows you have run from/tried to camouflage or hide/temporarily derailed/quelled return. Only, oddly, we look at our partner and think they now are the culprit! The relationship ends and we pick up where we left off. The same anxiety returns, the depression, low self-esteem, loneliness, etc., etc. Our symptoms multiply in the wee hours of the night when we are unable to distract ourselves, until perhaps we manifest an ailment we can point at and say, "Look at this, I am alone, therefore I am ill and out of balance!" Round we go chasing our tail (or tale), not quite seeing that it is alone we must be to know we are never alone…it is with ourselves we must know who we are and not. It is in our own presence that we must ultimately embrace the truth; that the wound of separation, when not seen for what it is, keeps us "Chasing Amy" (illusions) and never knowing the freedom, balance or joy that is available in sickness and health, until death do you part.
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