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Can A Bad Relationship Make You Sick?

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Can A Bad Relationship Make You Sick? [EXPERT]
Relationships can make us sick. So can life.
Possibly...but how healthy were you to begin with?

There are so many ways in which relationships affect our overall health. Recent studies have shown how coupling can add years to your life, boost your immune system and even help with anxiety and depression. Naturally, one might wonder what influence the end of relationship might have on your health and wellness.

Most of us don't have to think too hard to conjure injurious feelings about a relationship gone bad. And, while the pain and grief due to botched relationship vary from one individual to the next, we need to explore our baseline beliefs about everything rather than jump to overly simplistic ideology. "My relationship ended, it felt bad and now I am sick because of it," is precisely the kind of unexamined thinking and superficial generalization that spins us into imbalance in most cases. In Between Relationships; 10 Antidotes To Loneliness!

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For example, most of us don’t take into account how we arrived to relationship. Did we come healthy and balanced? Did we know who we were, what we wanted, were we purpose-driven and spiritually and emotionally actualized? Did we know how to sleep alone, be alone, fulfill our needs ourselves, and understand that we are responsible at all times for our own reality? Had we taken care to understand the complexity of human emotions and feelings and how to maintain inner peace and harmony BEFORE we met our beloved...would they have thrust the blade, turned it and left us for dead? I suspect, should you honestly ask yourself these questions, I think not. 

Rather, most of us sidle up to our relationship candidates, seducer or seductress in full force, selling some version of ourselves we find acceptable and hopefully loveable, to better secure our hostage. The person that will make it all better, soften life’s hardships, ease our fear, anxiety, help lift our depression etc, in exchange for...well, whatever we sell it for. How much do we pay to have someone comfort us in the night because we are afraid to be alone, to walk our path alone; to have someone hear us, see us, love us, accept us, celebrate us? We rarely think of this, as we are seduced ourselves into the story of Happily Ever After, hopefully swept into bliss where we can hide or be transformed there, rather than in the suffocating truth of aloneness. 5 Genuinely Loving Gestures That Show You Care

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