a) Meet someone you’re attracted to and have sex right away since chemistry is the best indicator of a great choice of partner.
b) Sign up on every online dating service, line up endless dates and then, like a total maniac, unleash your inner daemons and hope one date finds this attractive?
c) Drink alcohol and or take a few sedatives, anti-whatever (because, hey, everyone else does). Go to a bar or nightclub and get your groove going and then just see what happens, because you’re reasoning is in no way impaired…if anything, being high brings out your real self, and tons of people meet their soul mates in bars!
d) Stop...drop and roll?
e) Or maybe STOP, drop in with yourself and see first where you might be leaking some valuable life-force energy. (Hopefully you chose E, because otherwise I would have to slap the crap out of you—in a very loving way, of course.)
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If we don’t have time for ourselves…neither will they.
If we don’t MAKE time for ourselves…neither will they.
If we don’t know how to manage our own lives well…neither will they.
If we do find someone to “take us away from all this,” one or the other gets tired of the burden and eventually the relationship dies. Check the statistics; people who have the fewest relational tools are most likely to have dissatisfying and destructive relationships. Period.
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Give yourself what you want from a partner and you’re exponentially more likely to attract a really good one!
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And tools and skills are pointless if we don’t use them, so~
Surround yourself with supportive people and you are more likely to stay on your path of growth and good self-care, and leave what isn’t that behind! More tips at http://www.maryannelive.com