Or maybe someone owes you money and said they would pay you, yet every time you see them they don't mention it and well, because you're a polite person and don't want to seem rude or desperate or (fill in the blank) you suck it up and tell yourself, if they don't mention it next time you will say something except in between now and next time you realize this isn't the first time this has happened and that this person always seems to borrow money and not pay you back, and further has some convenient, tear-jerking story about why they can't. So naturally you, being the loving, understanding person you are, wouldn't ask someone who is down and out to pay you back when they are going through hard times…except you notice when you see them next they tell you about the trip they just took or the new jacket they just bought or show you their new cell phone and you think…What the…?
So, what do you do when you don't know what to do? When clearly something is amiss and no one is saying anything about it? The great thing about the Pink elephant phenomenon is that it disappears almost completely as soon as one person has the courage to speak it. Literally poof…gone. The challenge is, more often than not as I illustrated, it feels like so much is at stake that we put it off. The problem in that scenario is obvious: the elephant remains or in some cases, grows proportionately. Before you buy a voodoo doll or go postal or, worse, try to make the elephant your pet, here are a few suggestions I recommend when you find yourself faced with the pink beast.
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1) How important is it? What's the relative importance of this issue on a scale of paper-cut to open-heart surgery? If it's really an ego issue or a matter of pride or some other such nonsense, then you may want to deal with that rather than make a bigger issue out of something when there is no need. On the other hand, if you decide it's a major deal at least you have taken the first step to putting the situation in some perspective.
2) What have you really got to lose? There is an expression, "You can't lose what you never had." So why not take a real honest look and see what it is you're really dealing with here. You may want to consult an expert, pray, see a therapist or talk openly with a friend. See if you can't get some clarity and objectivity about the situation and see what's truly at stake. Never underestimate the power of support, nor the power of the Divine illumination!
3) Take the high road! They call the high road "the road less traveled" for a reason; namely, because it's not always easy to say what needs to be said or do the right thing. Don't let that stop you. As my mother always says, "This isn't a dress rehearsal; bring your A game," and in the end you will know in your heart you were true to yourself!
4) Trust yourself, above all...you know the answer. The truth is always right there inside us; sometimes it just takes a while to get our courage up to do what we know we have to! On that you can always rely!
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