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4 Common Gay Sex Myths Debunked!

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Gay couples have the same sexual appetites as straight couples!
Don't believe everything you hear about gay sex.

3. Lesbians want to do it with your girlfriend while you watch. Nope! Wrong again! That's a straight guy's fantasy and has nothing to do with any fantasy a lesbian is having. This fantasy gives bi-sexual women a bad rap in the lesbian world. OkCupid's data tells us this isn't happening either.

First off, 25% of straight people with profiles on OkCupid have had sex with someone who is gay or lesbian. That's a lot of straight folks having sex with gays and lesbians. It seems that heterosexual women are very interested in same sex encounters; perhaps this is driven by the threesome fantasy many of their boyfriends are having.  

33% percent of straight women reported they had a same sex encounter and another 18% say they'd like the chance to have sex with a woman. For men, it's 13% who say they'd be interested in a same sex encounter. So what about all these suddenly bisexual people?

4. Bisexuals have sex with everyone. Nope. Not true either. Bisexuals consistently seek out one gender for relationships. Thanks again to OkCupid for this data. 36% of bisexuals send messages only to women while 41% send messages only to men. And finally only 23% of bisexuals send messages to both sexes.

Oops! Are bisexuals confused about their sexual orientation? Perhaps. The data showed that younger individuals are more open to both sexes, but as individuals move into their 30s, they are picking one gender over the other. Most people identifying as bisexual are seeking relationships consistently with one gender not both. 

For the straight male world, what we see is that only one in four women is interested in both men and women at the same time. So that threesome fantasy is going to stay a fantasy. 

These are four of the most popular myths I run into regularly as I network in my role as a Gay Girl Dating Coach where I help lesbians break through barriers to finding love. What other gay sex myths are out there that need to be debunked? Let me know your thoughts in the comments section.

References:
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-biggest-lies-in-online-dating/ 04/05/2013

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/gay-sex-vs-straight-sex/ 04/05/2013

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Mary Malia

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Mary G. Malia

Certified Singles Coach, RCI

Certified Strategic Intervention Coach, Robbins- Madanes Coaching

http://www.gaygirldatingcoach.com

Location: Portland, ME
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Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support
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