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How to handle the unique challenges of dating a lesbian with children.

She told me she wanted me to be dating and to find someone special, but she'd rather not be part of the process. Then she amazed me by saying, "Mom, every time you break up with someone, I have to break up with her too, and I fall in love with everyone you date. So just don't bring anyone home until you're sure about her from now on so my heart doesn't get broken anymore."

I was amazed with the wisdom coming out of her mouth ... and humbled by my own unconsciousness when it came to the impact of my dating life on my daughter. Fortunately, you don't have to be like me.

Here's the lesson. If you're the lesbian without children, don't take it so personally when the gay girl you are dating says she'd like to go slowly with regards to having you spend time with her kids. Their hearts are as important as yours when it comes to dating and relationships.

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If you are the lesbian mom with kids, it's okay to keep your dating life and motherhood separate until you are sure the woman you are dating is a good fit for you and your family. It's actually a good thing for your kids to not have a revolving door of your girlfriends coming and going in their lives. Their tender hearts really do fall in love so easily.

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Give those little ones a break; be smart around teenagers and enjoy the process of getting to know each other. You could be on your way to creating a beautiful new family.

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