Counseling and talking to numerous women I find that one of the big problems is women feel too rushed and hurried. Women need different stimuli to turn them on then men. We don’t get excited when we see a naked man. In fact, most women prefer a man with shorts on to a man in the buff (if he puts a suit on and parades around the house, even better). Men may like to see a woman in heels, but they forget, we are looking at their shoes too. Many men wear shoes with terrible heels; they look like they walked the fields of Lubbock Texas with dust, and have scuffs from years ago. Women may notice your butt, but your shoes could turn the beginnings of a great mood off. Your sex text may not do it for us, but if we catch a glance at your jaw while you are drinking from a water fountain in the right lighting, we may feel a sexual impulse. Women don’t talk to you about this, because we know you won’t understand. Women are also somewhat reticent about telling you what turns them on, because it is so
different than what turns men on, or what media believes should turn them on. The one area women and men agree turns both of them on, is how a woman looks. The problem is women’s comparison of what makes them beautiful or sexy is so different than men’s that it’s difficult to feel accomplished in that area. We are busy, working, taking care of the kids, and the chores (it is still reported that women do the majority of household chores in the U.S). When women take time for themselves they feel sexier, better about their bodies, and more willing to share their bodies with their partner.
Sex and Intimacy are so important to women and men. It is healthy for the body; trengthening the immune system, helping your heart, blood pressure, stabilizing your mood, and making you happier just to name a few. How do you feel better about your body image so you will naturally want to have sex with your partner? I have a few suggestions below.