For More Intimacy Take a Vacation

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For More Intimacy Take a Vacation

Summer is here, and with it comes ideas of lemonade, hammocks on the beach, the
breeze blowing through your hair, sounds of the ocean and better sex. What, better
sex? Yes, you need to take a break for your marriage. A vacation is good for the heart,
soul and your sex life. Most of the recent polls I’ve read reinforce the fact that two thirds
of all married couples report having better sex on vacation than they do at home.

Vacations are our time to let go, and relax. We can stay in bed all day if we want, and
with that feeling, we give ourselves permission to enjoy one another. Men have less
difficulty with taking time for sex than women do. It seems like everything else comes
before sex for most wives: the kids, cleaning, meal preparation, birthday gifts, and
parties. Way down in almost last place you will find sex. Most women don’t put it in last
place on purpose. It gets moved there just as the other things for which women should
take time. For women, it seems self serving to put her own enjoyment as number
one or two on the list. Vacations offer her that opportunity.

 

It is little wonder that couples struggling with their marriage haven’t taken a vacation
in years. They may have gone to Disneyland with the kids, or Greece with the in-laws,
but they have not gone anywhere by themselves for a very long time. Vacations are a
marital renewal in all ways. Communication verbally and physically is enhanced and
communication alone is the single biggest predictor of marital happiness. Sharing novel
experiences, so vital to a happy marriage, are what vacations thrive on. Perhaps most
important is the lack of an agenda or objective with vacations. The couple becomes
more united in that “space” that most vacations provide and is usually lost in our day
to day lives. It isn’t important where you go, or the money you spend. The importance
comes from the planning together, and the fact that both of you value the idea of getting
away with each other. This heightens the pleasure for women, knowing that their man
desires them enough to “escape” with them.

What ladies should bring:

Article contributed by

Mary Jo Rapini

Counselor/Therapist

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