Most abuse begins with a process called "grooming". If you notice your child engaged with any of these activities and you feel uncomfortable, it is time to talk to your child:
- Your child's teacher wants a friendship with your child, including outings.
- Your child's teacher begins giving your child gifts that seem odd to you.
- Your child's teacher begins complimenting them on specific shirts or clothes.
- Your child's teacher begins to work at getting unusually close to you (the parent).
- Your child's teacher begins eroding boundaries, such as hugging, touching or rubbing your child's back.
- Your child's teacher begins telling your child confidential, secretive or personal things.
As a parent, if you notice these behaviors, begin limiting your child's time with their teacher. Talk to your child in a safe and supportive environment about their relationship with their teacher. Sexual abuse is a crime and if it is happening to your child, they are being victimized.
You can expect them to be afraid, evasive and nervous. Reassuring them that it is not their fault and that you will help them is the most important thing to be conveyed.
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