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Faking an orgasm; not healthy for mind, body, or soul

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Faking an orgasm; not healthy for mind, body, or soul
Intimacy heals the body, mind, and soul. If you are faking part of the connection it hurts all three

3. Make time. If you get careless and don’t make love making a priority, it will become quickies every day. Quickies are highly correlated with fakers. This is mostly a time problem. Women take longer. If you block out two hours (reserve an hour and a half for a bath, dancing, and/or being close with soft talking), you will have more success at achieving a real orgasm.
4. The body has an incredible ability to learn. Once you have a real orgasm, the likelihood of you having another one is high.
5. Your partner needs feedback. When they do something RIGHT…always let them know you are delighted.
So many women in their thirties and forties tell me they have never had an orgasm. Their partners, on the other hand, are telling me how much sex they have and how much their partner enjoys their orgasms. Faking an orgasm is, not only a type of deceit to your partner, it is a disrespect of your own sexual needs. Your body has an incredible ability to help you release stress, minimize moodiness, and attain a physical/emotional connection to another. Why would anyone want to fake something so beneficial to their health? –Mary Jo Rapini
• In an interesting interview with Meg Ryan, who faked the famous orgasm in “When Harry met Sally,” she said she did it by pretending she was on a roller coaster in the dropping phase. No woman hearing that interview was surprised that the fake orgasm had nothing to do with sex…..every man was surprised because as they watched it, they “knew” that’s how they made their wife feel with her orgasms. The brain, not the genitals, is the biggest sex organ. Mjo

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