The Best New Year's Eve may be the one you spend alone

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The Best New Year's Eve may be the one you spend alone
New Years'Eve doesn't have to be lonely just because you're alone. Make it a night of empowerment!

The worst thing about being alone on New Year’s Eve isn’t being alone. It’s all of the things you say to yourself about why you are alone. You aren’t good enough, popular enough, smart enough, skinny enough, pretty enough, handsome enough, rich enough, and the list goes on and on. These may be your reality, but more likely they are your inner thoughts that keep you down and defeated.
New Year’s Eve alone can be one of the most inspirational evenings of the year, and it can leave you feeling complete, whole and enthusiastic about the New Year. It can also help begin the New Year feeling refreshed and ready. You won’t feel this way if you mope in your self-pity and allow your thoughts to bring you down. In fact, you’ll probably sit down in front of the television with a carton of ice cream, or a bottle of your favorite alcoholic beverage and eat or drink yourself to comfort going to bed feeling more like a loser than you have in some time.
Here is a 4-part plan for you to prepare and complete on New Year’s Eve. Set the tone by having a nourishing meal, and have a desk or area to write, with your favorite New Year’s Eve program as background noise if you need it. Here is the plan:
• Make a list of everyone who had a significant positive influence in your life this past year. Include those people who you may not have “liked,” but helped you change your view or mind in a positive way (remember, the people who teach us often aren’t those who give us warm fuzzies).
• From your list, choose three who were the most significant and write them an old fashioned letter telling them how their influence affected you and your life. Be candid, be real, but mostly tell them why you are grateful they were in your life this year. Send this letter through the mail. If you mail it on the 2nd of Jan (no postal service on Jan. 1), your influential person will receive it at the beginning of the month. This is good for you and them.
• Make a list of your own strengths on a separate piece of paper.
• Hang this list in several areas of your home, and read it often. The more we read something the more it becomes part of our natural thinking. Focusing on your strengths helps you live with more confidence.
If you do this exercise, you will be able to watch the ball drop and have a toast to the New Year feeling less defeated and more energized. People who are happier and successful have learned to turn off the defeat talk in their head and focus on the strengths they have to give. –Mary Jo Rapini


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