How To Reap The Health Benefits Of Marriage

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Marriage offers many advantages. A healthy heart is just one!

It takes more than just saying "I do" to reap the health benefits of marriage. You need to work at keeping your marriage strong. Below are ideas to help you keep your marriage — and your heart — healthy:

1. Build trust. Being together and being friends is how all good relationships begin and become stronger. If you don't feel like your partner has your best interests at heart, you won't feel committed for life.

2. Behave in a way you would be proud of if your spouse was around ... all the time. You may feel great flirting and getting attention from strangers, but if your spouse were there, would he be proud of the way you were acting? Would he respect this part of you? Don't act one way to your partner and another in your private life.

3. Be kind. It's so easy to act grumpy or irritable. It is even easier when you are with someone for a long time. That same person who vowed his life to you at the altar still gets a sparkle when you are kind to him.

4. Think outside the box. Quit defaulting to your parents' relationship patterns. You are creating a marriage and writing your own script. It can be wild,  crazy and fun! It doesn't have to be what your mom or dad thought was best.

5. Do one thing each day that you wish your partner would do for you. For example, women come into my office (with their husbands) and tell their husbands (and me) that they never get flowers. When is the last time you sent your husband flowers? Guys don't like flowers? You better ask them. Most men love getting a card or flowers sent to them from time to time.

6. Try new things. Think you are too old, out of shape or busy to try that bicycle tour or take that cooking class with your spouse? If you think you are, you are. The circumstances that prevent us from doing things together will never end. You have to value "us" enough to keep your relationship novel. Afer all, life is about evolving and trying new things.

Article contributed by

Mary Jo Rapini

Counselor/Therapist

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