7. Respect the bedroom. All roads lead to intimacy in a marriage. No matter what the problem, if you have a partner you can lie next to and feel their warmth, connection and physical touch, you can get through it.
8. Discuss your problems ... but not too much. Venting helps to release issues, but unless there is a goal or plan, the issues are not resolved. So before you start talking, ask yourself 'What do I hope to accomplish by sharing my feelings with my spouse?'
9. Focus on the positive. It is easy to look at any relationship and see the problems. At work, consultants get paid to do just that. Focusing on the positive is much more difficult, especially when we are upset. But when you focus on the positives, it usually ends in a win/win.
10. Touch each other daily. Nothing is as important as touch. It doesn't have to be long, in public or sexual. It does have to be done in a way that communicates, "I am in this with you and it's where I want to be."
If you practice these every day, you will have a healthy marriage and a grateful heart!
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