How are you recovering from the emotional effects that inevitably come with divorce?
Whether you’re divorced for five days or five years, it is very important that you recover from the emotional pains you suffered. Also, it doesn’t matter if you asked for the divorce, or if you were the one was asked. If you asked out, you were probably experiencing so much pain that you couldn’t take anymore. If you were the one that was asked, perhaps you weren’t expecting it, and you’re feeling betrayed by your ex’s desire to quit. Either way, you’re still undoubtedly feeling hurt, anger, frustration, guilt, loneliness, and more.
So, what is Divorce Recovery? In my recently published book, “Recovering from Divorce: 7 Steps to Recover Without Drama to Create a New Life”, I define it as; “Divorce recovery is the ability to put the past behind without looking back, without holding any grudges toward your ex, and without wondering, “What if I did things differently?” It’s about living fully in the present, and being ready and excited about the future—by moving forward in your life with clarity, a sense of purpose, and a desire to find happiness in whatever form it may take”.
Recovery from divorce is important because as long as you hold onto the past you’ll never really move forward. In some way or another, it will always play a part in your life if you refuse to address the issue. Yes I said refuse. You can no longer blame your Ex for what’s happening in your life. No matter what is going on between the two of you.
It’s up to you to decide if you’re going to allow your Ex to be the reason you continue to live in the past or put your her in your rear view mirror. Divorce recovery starts by being willing to reveal what emotions are keeping you stuck and releasing the frustrations you’re holding onto. Once you accept the fact that the past is the past and you let go of it, you can begin the process of living in the present and even seeing the possibility of the future.
You may think you’ve recovered from your divorce, but if you could look into the minds of your friends and family, what would they say? They may be thinking you’re not the same person, or that you’re distant, or possibly disagreeing with everyone around you. It’s what you are broadcasting to everyone around you. You might not even realize what message you’re broadcasting. That’s where reaching out to someone, like a coach, who can show you what you can’t see yourself, support you, and guide you to wherever it is you want go. Most of importantly a coach can do this with objectivity and no judgment.
When you recover from divorce those emotional pains will disappear, so you’re broadcasting a message of happiness and contentment, you’re self-confident and your family and friends are excited to be around you.
So now, you tell me how important is it that you recover from your divorce?
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This article was originally published at Martin Salama Your Divorce Recovery Coach . Reprinted with permission from the author.