Is Dating All Luck?

It’s Saint Patrick’s Day soon. Many of us go out and celebrate with our friends. If you’re single sometimes you wonder if it is all luck when it comes to dating. How are you attracted to someone? What makes them attractive to you? What makes you attractive to them? How do you find your special someone in the first place? Is it pure chance? Is she my soul mate? Is he my knight in shining armor?
Ultimately I will leave this conundrum up to you to decide. Your beliefs and values will play a big role in whether you think luck has anything to do with finding that special someone. There is a lot written out there discussing whether or not we have soul mates or multiple soul mates. Some people like to look at finding their soul mate with the perspective that there could be multiple soul mates. Given the rise in divorce, this seems to be a prevailing thought. I’d like to challenge you to think about not looking for a soul mate or mistakenly thinking the person you fall head over heels in love with is your soul mate. There are a lot of physiological things going on in your body. One of which is a love cocktail that tends to wear off after being intimate with a person for two years.
What it really boils down to is whether the person you are dating is compatible or compatible enough for you. Compatibility aside, first let’s quickly take a look at what men and women are hoping to get out of a new dating relationship. You may feel like the luckiest person in the world when you find that person who makes it seem like there is a pot of gold behind every tree, and the adventure of looking for the end of the rainbow together seems thrilling. Well, er, for the moment, because remember you have a love cocktail of feel-good hormones coursing through your veins.
One important word to remember when you’re in the whole dating game is: expectations. All failure in communication is due to this one word: expectations. If your expectation does not match their expectation, then the expectation is unrealistic, and you are bound to travel down a bumpy road. The road will be bumpy, because it was not intentionally prepared by open, honest communication between the two love bugs. It doesn’t help that what you think the other person needs, because it is what you need to feel loved, is not what the other person needs to feel loved.