3. The Brit and I decided to have a family celebration on Feb. 14, just as I had the last several years with my daughters. Meanwhile, he and I would share time together an evening the following week when my daughters were with their dad and The Brit didn't have to work late. He knew I had an expectation that he would express his thoughtfulness with a card or other token on Valentine's Day itself, but he also knew that I didn't expect this small token to be fancy jewelry or a similar "typical" Valentine gift.
The result? I didn't spend time fretting that he would "figure it out," "get it," or give me some "amazing" gift as a surprise. To put it plainly, we both took the time to focus on romance since it so often gets lost in our regular, day-to-day lives.
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If you need a reality check about Valentine's Day, I'm here to give it. It's your choice if you decide to moan and groan or mutter with distaste about this holiday because you bought into the belief that your singlehood is "bad." If you're in a relationship, why not hearken back to your elementary days when things were simpler and make your own valentine our of construction paper and glitter. Let your partner know you want to make Feb. 14 a day of celebration of your relationship with each other?
Remember, you don't have to bad-mouth Valentine’s Day. She’s not out to get you or guilt you. Rather, she’s just a day on the calendar created to, yes, sell cards and chocolates — but she's ALSO there to remind the general public to spend one day focusing on any person you love amid your harried, frenetic, day-to-day life.
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