When to Discuss Where Your Relationship is Going

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When to Discuss Where Your Relationship is Going

3. Men are attracted to women who are confident. In sharing your value of relationship, it communicates that you are excited about this part of your life, that you hope to find love; that you want to experience intimacy, commitment, passion and love in new, deeper ways than you have ever before. As a result of sharing this excitement, you vibrate at a high energetic frequency. You emanate confidence. You know what you want. This is hot! Men find this attractive. And while the man with whom you are speaking might not be at this place in his life, he will know that he has attracted a smart, confident woman. And that you are someone who he can respect. And in this, you are a person who dates with dignity.

4. He might vanish. So what? Dating with Dignity Man Panelists nationwide report that when a man does the “vanishing act” after he has spent time with you, it is not because he is second guessing your amazing-ness! In fact, when he disappears it is often because he has realized that he may not be in the place to be the man he wants to be — the man who can do what is necessary to have a successful relationship.

Men need to be feel that they can confidently provide. That they can protect the woman they are with when necessary. If they do not feel settled, confident or able to show up as men, according to the definition they have created for themselves, they could pull back and withdraw. A man who is emotionally mature will be able to communicate this phenomenon adeptly when it comes up in the aforementioned discussion regarding relationship readiness. Never fear. You have attracted a man who is self-aware. Bravo. And, now that you have discerned that you are in different places in your lives, it is clear that it is time to move on to create space for the man who is ready to have a relationship.

5. Take responsibility. Ditch the “Cool Girl” mentality. It is appropriate and necessary to have needs as well as expectations. Stand in the power of knowing you are ready to love, to be loved whole-heartedly. It is an exciting time, wrought with possibility. There are men — one man –circling the universe looking for you. Create space. Let go of your past, the undeserved present, so he can find you. The man who will call you consistently. His words and actions will match. He will be excited to spend the weekend with you, longing to see again soon. He will text you back promptly. He will not vanish. He is ready, a man who is not frightened, offended or terrified of the word relationship. Relationship. Relationship. Relationship. There, I’ve said it.

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