Valentine's Day

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Valentine's Day

3. We decided that we will have a family celebration on the 14th, and spend time together one evening next week when he isn’t working late, and my daughter’s are with their dad. I told him I “made” him a gift (yep, I did that, no button-down from H & M). He knows that I expect he will express his thoughtfulness with a card or other token on Valentine’s Day. He also knows that to me, the token does not have to be a diamond or other such typical Valentine’s Day gift. In fact, the engraved stapler he gave me for my birthday last year (it was a symbolic token and you can read more about it in a blog posted earlier) was one of the most romantic, brilliant and wonderful gifts I have ever received. He knows this because I expressed my expectations. Woohoo!

The result? I’m not sitting here hoping he “get’s it,” “figures it out,” or does something “amazing” to surprise me. The result is that we are putting some effort and intention into our romance because sometimes it gets lost between homework, making dinner, laundry and working til midnight.

So this is the real truth; a reality check so to speak — The truth is that if you choose to lament, boo-hoo, or go bash red piñata’s with your girlfriends this weekend because you feel like being single is “bad,” then it’s what you are choosing to feel, think and do. If you are in a relationship, I say, why not make your lover a red cut-out card covered in xoxoxoxs? Tell him or her you want to make February 14 a day to celebrate each other.
Yup. It’s that simple.

Here’s an option: Have fun! Create the Life You Love! Go see that Valentine’s Day move with your girls, or your boyfriend. Eat popcorn, laugh, pine over Bradley Cooper (he is in this movie, isn’t he? I mean, he’s in every ensemble cast move I have seen in the last 18 months, right?) and celebrate your life — the one you love because you are blessed to wake up, walk, breathe and have food in your refrigerator! Go volunteer with someone. Spend time with your nieces or nephews. Indulge them in one of those giant-sized Hershey Bars. Take them to ice cream. Or even offer to watch movies with them while mom and dad get nutty at the Best Western. Call an old friend. Spend time with your mom, or your dad. Be grateful for their place in your world.

The point is this: You don’t have to trash Valentine’s Day. She’s not so bad. She’s just a day that was created to sell cards and RE-MIND the general public to step out of their frenetic, harried lives for just one moment to tell someone — any person for whom you have feelings of love — that you LOVE him or her. That’s it. That’s all.
Now, go find someone in your life to say, “I LOVE YOU too, and then remember to be nice to all the holidays. Even Valentine’s Day. It’s not her fault. She was just born that way.

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