Texting is great, but keep yourself in check so you keep him interested!
By Marni Battista — Written on Jan 18, 2013
2. Do you text him daily to check in? Or are you expecting him to text every day?
If you are, then you’re definitely guilty of over-texting and unrealistic expectations. Texting him daily to say hi without giving him the chance to think of you is likely to send him packing.
If you’re the one constantly texting him first, even if it’s just say hello or check in, you’re setting the framework for your relationship. And the framework you’re creating is one where he just sits back and let’s you do all the work. If you want to have that type of relationship, then be our guest. However, if you’re looking for a balanced relationship with a quality man who is relationship-ready, make sure he puts in the effort to “court” you.
3. Patience is a virtue; impatience is not.
If you find yourself anxiously waiting for your guy to write you back, obsessively looking at your phone, and missing out on the NOW moments of your real life, if may indicate that you’re making dating your whole life rather than a part of it. If you feel like he’s taking “ too long” (whatever that means to you) and you often send multiple question marks instead of giving your guy some time to reply (Maybe he’s in the shower!), you’re pushing too hard.
Give him some time. And if you’re with friends, at work, or at the gym, it’s not mandatory to respond within 30 seconds. As long as you’re not playing games, being actively engaged in your life ultimately creates a bit of mystery. Even five minutes can go a long way!
Texting is great; just keep yourself in check so instead of driving your man away, you keep him interested.
This article was originally published at Dating With Dignity. Reprinted with permission from the author.