Texting is great, but keep yourself in check so you keep him interested!
By Marni Battista — Written on Jan 18, 2013
The art of texting in dating and relationships is a skill on which most of us could improve. In the age of constant contact via social media and especially texting, there are some Dating with Dignity guidelines to successfully navigate this world within your relationships.
When it comes to texting and relationships, there’s a fine line between keeping him interested and driving him away. So are you guilty of over-texting your guy? Here are a few ways to find out:
1. If your text is longer than the length of your thumb, it’s TOO LONG.
Texting is a great medium for communication, especially when it comes to things like wishing someone good luck on an interview or confirming a meeting place. It can also be great in a relationship to send a quick note letting your guy know you’re thinking about him (provided you aren’t only going into date number two). But if you’re dating a new guy or in a relationship and your text is so long it has to be divided into three paragraphs, it's definitely too long.
Also, it’s very easy to misinterpret texts since you aren’t communicating directly. When the nuances of voice, tone and body language are missing, the little gremlin voice inside often assumes the worst and interprets every message based on the filter of your past experiences. If you’re trying to engage in a conversation or express frustration, anger or disappointment, don’t hit Send! Instead, save it for a real, live conversation. It will probably go better; and most importantly, you won’t have to wait for a response (or, even worse, give him ample time to write a message designed to manipulate rather than communicate).
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This article was originally published at Dating With Dignity. Reprinted with permission from the author.