If you’re an older woman dating a younger man, is it doomed from the start or will you be happy.
In order for the relationship to thrive, you must find places in the relationship where you can be in your feminine. Ask him for help around the house, put him in charge of travel, let him cook you a special meal, and be comfortable in sharing your vulnerabilities with him. If you’re able to navigate gender roles and live in your SEXY Alpha FEMinine, the relationship can work for the long term.
If you’re a woman who feels stigmatized by the relationship, it’s likely headed in the wrong direction. December-May is always going to be looked at in a different light than May-December; so unless you can ignore others’ opinions about your relationship with a younger man, you’ll be out of luck.
If you’re a woman who has insecurity about aging (Okay, who doesn’t?) and it’s affecting your relationship because you’re constantly asking your man to validate your youth, it will be hard to pull off.
If you’re in a different stage of love than your guy and you haven’t communicated about it, you’ll need to do that. It’s important he be on the same page as you in terms of making a long-term commitment, having a family, and career goals.
Some studies have shown that if a wife is five or more years younger than her husband, they’re much more likely to avoid divorce. However, other studies have shown that divorce rates have absolutely nothing to do with age differences between men and women. This could be that often times older women dating younger men have already been married and decide to skip tying the knot again, so ask yourself what you’re looking for. If it’s a long-term relationship, just be open and honest with any man (younger OR older) and you can definitely find yourself happily ever after in Cougarville.
This article was originally published at Dating With Dignity. Reprinted with permission from the author.