3. Re-discover your true self.
If you think about it, being married to someone — whether it was for six months or 30 years — you probably felt like you were part of a whole. Guess what: you, even as a single woman, are also whole! And this is the perfect time to come to grips with your authentic self, 100%.
You may have forgotten things you enjoy doing solo or neglected things you used to do when you were single. So as you take time to readjust your life, you can also reclaim those things that make you happy.
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Often, we spend so much time living to make our partner happy that we forget to even ask ourselves what we need, what we like, and what we want to create in our lives. Taking time to dig deep will help you dig out of the crushing burden of your split and emerge with a clear picture of who you are at your most magnificent, loveable and loving self.
4. Learn to let go.
Letting go of any bitterness and resentment you’re harboring toward your former spouse can often be the hardest thing to do. Whether you left your spouse or he left you, there will likely be feelings of animosity and anger. If you can’t get past those vindictive feelings, there is no way you will be able to recharge your new life.
Devote the time you might spend being angry to creating the space to love yourself through “random acts of kindness.” Make sure you speak with gentleness and compassion to yourself, even when you make mistakes. Have patience with the ups and downs of the transition and recognize that it is truly a process. Most important, surround yourself with people who love you and make you happy.
Remember that how you get through and over divorce to move on with your life is completely up to you. YOU and ONLY you can take control of your life. This is your time to discover what you truly want out of your life and what makes you happy.
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If you think you might need more help finding out what it is you want out of your life, consider a private coaching session with a dating coach to break out of the post-divorce rut and take control of your life.