The Key to Getting Past Your Breakup


The Key to Getting Past Your Breakup
Move on with your life and find a fulfilling relationship with this "Break Over" four-step process

Step 3: Learn important lessons through your breakup. Every “ex” is the next right step toward a better relationship.
Although it might not seem like it now, moving through breakups can be among the best ways to grow as a person. You can choose to come out of this experience as a stronger woman who now knows infinitely more than before the breakup.

It’s important to fully understand the part you played in a breakup so you can ensure you don’t make the same mistakes again. Even if he was the biggest jerk EVER and it seems like the bad ending was entirely his fault, you will best serve yourself by looking at your role in the relationship. Did you choose someone who wasn’t good for you? Did you allow him to take advantage of your generosity? Did you ignore the signs that he really wasn’t ready for a long-term commitment? Are you repeating the same mistakes over and over again in your relationships? Are you confused about what you really want from a relationship? Now is the time to look back at these things and clearly define what your relationship goals truly are, take steps to change what’s not working for you, and shift your energetics so you can attract someone new (and better) to love.


Step 4: Take care of yourself and stop playing the victim.
The breakup didn’t happen TO YOU. Choose to see yourself as something other than a victim and begin to see the pain as an opportunity to learn, grow and get closer to finding your best match.

Once you embrace this mindset, the fun can begin. Make every day a time to nurture yourself. Savor your coffee in the morning, take a relaxing yoga class, enjoy being outside. Don’t lose your healthy routine; make sure to keep eating healthily and regularly exercising. Take this time to maybe find a new hobby or explore new interests.

Also, while a breakup signifies an end, it also indicates a new beginning. Try to take a little time out; don’t make any big decisions such as getting a new job or moving to a new city. And remember: you are not alone, and you can make this time as fulfilling as the time you were in that relationship. There is a reason it ended, and you’re going to be just fine.

Just remember, although it seems like you might never get over a painful breakup, you can and you will. The Dating with Dignity “Break Over” 4-Step Program is a great place to start taking care of yourself, and getting over your painful breakup can start today.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
Latest Expert Videos
Most Popular