The Key to Getting Past Your Breakup


The Key to Getting Past Your Breakup
Move on with your life and find a fulfilling relationship with this "Break Over" four-step process

We’ve all been there. You just broke up with a boyfriend, husband, or long-term partner. Whether you thought he was The One, or the one for the year or month, it never feels good.

Breakups are hard because they represent the loss of a shared commitment. Even breakups that make logical sense are still emotionally painful. Moving on can be hard, but there are essential steps to getting past your breakup that can ensure it takes less time to get from breakdown to breakthrough!

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Here is the Dating with Dignity “Break Over” 4-Step Program to get past your breakup today!

Step 1: Give yourself permission to grieve the loss of your relationship. Even if it was the “right choice,” it still sucks.
Whether it’s in your journal or talking with your sister, expressing how you’re feeling will help you feel less alone. However, this doesn’t mean that you should dwell on these negative feelings forever. You also need to remember that the end goal of your grief process should be moving forward.

Check in with yourself while you’re feeling low, and ensure that you’re taking care of yourself (sleeping, eating, and exercising), maintaining friendships, and living your life while you’re healing. If you feel paralyzed by your feelings or that you’ll never get out of the depression you’re feeling, you may want to seek professional help. This is totally okay, and remember that YOU are your priority.

Step 2: Don’t go through your breakup alone.
Support from friends and family is a big key to getting past your breakup. Spend time with people who value you. Even though you may want to be alone, separating yourself from friends is not the way to go. Also, know that most people have gone through a painful breakup, so they can remind you that you will heal and help you get there. Surrounding yourself with love and positivity is an excellent way to heal from a painful breakup.

Finally, make sure your ex isn’t part of this “Break Over” support system. Often it can be alluring to put him in the “friend” category prematurely because he “knows you better than anyone else.” Avoid the temptation and create as much distance as possible.

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