Again, in that ideal mature relationship, communication is essential. Fantasizing that he “should” just ask you and that it will happen without your expressing that it’s important to you isn’t realistic. Make sure you can articulate why it’s important to you in detail; “just because it is” won’t cut it! Remember, life is not a romantic comedy or reality TV show, and most likely your proposal will not look like a scene from The Bachelor or The Bachelorette.
One way NOT to get him to propose: Repeatedly bringing up marriage in a snarky, sarcastic or back-handed way will not encourage him to bring up the subject. If you’re forcing your own agenda and timeline by mentioning that your best friend’s cousin just got engaged and that you’ve been dreaming about centerpieces for your future wedding, you’re setting up your man to run for the hills. It would be best to bring it up in an open and honest discussion and articulate what you want for your future, asking him what he sees for both of you.
If you feel like you have to pull some tricks out of your wedding veil to get your man to propose, chances are he’s not the one. And you’re welcome to try making “engagement chicken” in the hopes he will propose, but our Dating with Dignity advice is to skip the chicken and go for communication.