5. He is single. This one may seem like a no-brainer, but it’s worth mentioning that a man who is worth your time is not in a relationship, going through a divorce, or in a relationship with someone who “just doesn’t seem to understand him like you do.” As a result, he is emotionally available to pursue a relationship with you. He does not have to hide you until the divorce is final, “call you later” under the guise of running an errand, or meet you in a hotel, his art studio, or at your place because he hasn’t yet moved out of the home he shares with his partner.
6. He does not expect any kind of physical intimacy sooner than you are ready.
While Mr. Boyfriend Material finds you incredibly attractive, he does not expect you to kiss him at the end of the first or second date and he does not expect you to have sex with him until the time is right, once you two have gotten to know each other and determined that you’d like to advance your relationship to the next level. What’s more, if he does angle for physical intimacy early on (say, after the third date, for instance), he won’t mind if you refuse. In fact, he will most likely apologize profusely, respect you immensely, and be impressed by your self-respect, dating dignity, and confidence—all huge turn-ons.
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In short, Mr. Boyfriend Material is confident, mature, unafraid to be vulnerable, and feels comfortable with commitment. He wants to please you by engaging in a variety of actions that show kindness, romances you willingly, and loves time spent together having tea, walking on the beach, or going to the movies. Sex is not his primary motive for asking you out, and, in fact, does not expect you to sleep with him until you are ready—whether that is in three months, six months, or even not until you are married. 11 Things A Good Boyfriend Would Never Ask You To Do
Mr. Boyfriend Material is seeking an interdependent relationship with a confident woman who wants the same. Mr. Boyfriend Material might not be someone you come across often, but when you do, knowing about these qualities will help you recognize him. And if you don’t settle for anything less than Mr. Boyfriend Material, you have the potential for a great relationship that can fulfill you, bring you happiness, and meet your needs.
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Marni Battista, founder of Dating with Dignity, has professional training in dating and relationship coaching as well as training in the Core Energy Coaching Process from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching (IPEC). A certified Life Coach through the International Coaching Federation, Battista is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment—“The D-Factor”—which helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are or are not "date-able" and what types of messages they unconsciously broadcast to men based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes. You can learn more about Marni and her programs and services by visiting her website here.