3. You’re lying to yourself about what you want.
So maybe you’ve decided that online dating is the right thing for you to try. But if you’re 45 and perhaps interested in getting married in the near future, continuously writing men who say they’re looking for some “casual fun” or an “activity partner,” or who are consistently significantly younger than you, you are either:
a) not actually looking for a serious relationship.
b) thinking you’re compatible with the wrong type of man.
In order to get out of that mindset, take it upon yourself to start writing Mr. Boyfriend Material men: men in your age range (-ish) who are also looking for a serious relationship and whom you’re not judging their profile based on things like how hot he looks with his shirt off or what a fast, fun life he looks like he’s living. You’ll get over that–and probably pretty quickly. Get realigned with what YOU are looking for and what will make YOU happy, and we would venture a guess that you won’t be single for long.
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