8 First Date Tips You Need To Know


8 First Date Tips You Need To Know
Follow these 8 first date tips in order to get dates two, three, and beyond!

Remember, it’s not an interview: Making a man feel as if he’s being interviewed on a date is the number one guy turn-off! Playing 20 questions on a first meeting isn’t going to be fun for ANYONE, especially him. One way to avoid this scenario is to try to sit kitty-corner to your date! It’s a great strategy to promote a more relaxed vibe and make it feel less like a corporate interview. Instead of asking him questions such as, "What do you do for work?" try "What do you love about your career most?" or "What are you most proud of in the work you do?" Remember, to get the second date a man has to feel as though there’s the possibility of one day (in the future, not on the date, per se) getting intimate, and he wants to believe that you think he’s alpha male material. When you make him feel interviewed, it can erode his masculinity and will definitely ensure you don’t get to see him again!

Don’t be late: If you’re running late, be sure to let your date know. That said, showing up late will most likely make the other person think your meeting was a low priority for you. Respect him and his time by being prompt. In grownup dating land, it’s actually not cool to be "fashionably late."


Keep expectations realistic: If you go into a first date predicting fireworks or that he’s the one because of your awesome text message conversation over the last three days, you’ll most likely be disappointed. Some people are nervous or stressed on a first date, so first impressions aren’t always the most fantastic representations of their authentic selves. Think about if you’re nervous; they probably are too! Keep your expectations low and you’ll hopefully be pleasantly surprised instead of sorely disappointed.

Have a good time, collect data (Is he a match for YOU?!) and have fun: Dating with dignity is actually a fun, fulfilling process. When you’re feeling confident, positive and authentic, the experience in itself always provides value. Remember that you’re on a date, not a job assignment; so if it’s not feeling fun, then we can guess that will "leak" and possibly cause him to question your potential as his mate. We sometimes get so wrapped up in how the other person think it’s going, how we look, or what he thinks of us that we forget to make it a joyful experience. Even if it’s the worst first date you’ve ever been on, focus on the positives: maybe your steak was great, or you love his shirt. If nothing else, perhaps there’s humor in the situation itself! Whatever it is, don’t forget have a GOOD time, smile and be confident.

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