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The Way To A Man's Heart


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It's not old fashioned to cook and clean after all.

My husband and I bought a house in April. We had been living in a small two bedroom apartment in Hollywood together for the past ten years. It was a nice apartment, but the buidling was old and we were quite cramped especially in the kitchen and bedroom. There was not enough closet space, I had my desk and "office" in a little corner of the living room with no storage for my office supplies, etc.  Our bedroom was overloaded because of my book shelves and the dust accumulation was out of control. My husband was always frustrated at the clutter I had around my desk. The kitchen was outdated, with no counter space and no matter how much I tried to clean the floor, there was always grime in the corners that would never come out.  My husband wondered why I wasn't more domestic, but I didn't feel like cooking and cleaning in that space. Arguments were frequent and I felt exhausted and frazzled.

Now that we are in a 3 bedroom house and I have my own office and a large kitchen, our relationship has improved by about 90%. All of a sudden I feel a bit like a 1950's housewife! Now I love to cook and clean! I am even gardening for the first time in my life. I do realize that most women are working these days, myself included, and being a 1950's housewife is not possible or even something many of us aspire to be. But, the good news is, we can do things fast and simple with some of the same results! When our livng space is clean and organized and our husbands are well fed, relationship blips seem to smooth out a lot faster.

Last night I had a small dinner party for four of my girlfriends. One of my guests, Jenny, was single. She admitted that she didn't cook and was very impressed with the dinner I served. I let her in on a secret, "this is my date night dinner." Let's face it, the saying, "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach" still holds today. When I was single and I wanted to invite a man over for dinner, or now when I want to make a nice simple, romantic meal for my husband, this is what I whip up in a jiffy.

Buy a filet of salmon. Drizzle with olive oil, sprinkle some sea salt, pepper and dried dill over it, pop it in the oven at 400 degrees for about 20 minutes or until done to your taste.
Sautee some fresh spinach in a pan over the stove.
Make a nice caprese salad by slicing large red tomatoes, adding slices of buffalo mozzerella cheese, a few leaves of fresh basil and drizzle with olive oil and balsamic vinegar.
Open a bottle of wine and voila! You are a gourmet cook!

If you want a quick and simple dessert, take a little liquor glass and layer rice pudding that you buy ready made at the grocery store, with fresh berries.

Getting back to basics and enjoying a home cooked meal with someone special is a time to cherish in the hectic fast paced world we live in today.

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