I recently got an email from a woman asking me if I thought that there might be something wrong with her since she rarely got asked out on a second date. Without meeting this woman and finding out what exactly she was doing on the dates, it was hard for me to give her a direct answer, but I do have some suggestions that everyone can do to ensure more success in not only dating but life in general.
Most people have a list of what they are looking for in a partner. If not written down on paper, then at least a rough draft in their head. Often that list is so specific and out of reality that not even George Clooney or Angelina Jolie could fulfill it. My suggestion is to compare the list of traits that you would like in a partner to your own traits. Ghandi said, "Be the change you want to see in the world." I am suggesting that you be what you are looking for in a mate. If you want your partner to be in amazing shape, debt free, have a good job, money in the bank, charming, intelligent and neat and clean, compare your notes. Are you those things? Do you have the qualities that someone would have on their list? Ask yourself, "what is it that if someone knew about me, they wouldn't want to get into a relationship with me?"
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There may be some little tweaks that you can do to make yourself more appealing such as getting your teeth whitened, losing ten pounds, getting an updated wardrobe or hairstyle, or dealing with some bitterness issues from a past relationship. Anything you can do to work on yourself will make you feel better, raise your self esteem, at the same time raising your vibration and you will find you are in a great relationship in no time!