Why You Shouldn't Sweat Being Single

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Why You Shouldn't Sweat Being Single [EXPERT]
It's time to take some pressure off your search for Mr. Right.

The quest to find Mr. or Ms. Right has become so popular. There seem to be a million online dating sites, matchmaking services, books and talk radio shows on the subject. Everywhere you look, there is some reference to finding the love of your life. But first, I suggest that you take stock and decide why you want a relationship right now. Do any of these reasons ring true?

• I am lonely.
• All of my friends are in a relationship.
• I can't afford to go to nice restaurants unless a man invites me.
• I feel like a loser without a man in my life.
• My mother keeps asking me when I'm going to get married.
• My biological clock is ticking.
• I want to get over my divorce or last relationship.
• I want a man to support me so that I don't have to work anymore.
• I want to get even with someone or make someone jealous.

Many times people just jump right into a relationship or stay in one with the wrong person because they feel that it's better than being alone. That's why I am inviting you to really look at whether or not you are ready for a relationship right now.

Maybe you just got out of a bad relationship, are recently divorced or had a death in the family and need to heal. There is nothing wrong with being alone and working on yourself to make sure that you are a complete, whole and healthy person who is ready to give your all with the right person.

I've always liked the saying, "I'd rather be healthy and alone than sick with someone else."

Article contributed by

Marla Martenson

Matchmaker

Marla Martenson, matchmaker & author of Diary of a Beverly Hills Matchmaker

Location: Los Angeles, CA
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