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Love Affair With A Handbag

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Love Affair With A Handbag
What do men think of our love affair with a good handbag?

I read an article today about a handbag study, showing that British women are the most purse-obsessed.  I can tell you, Americans are not far behind. We love a good bag. A classy handbag is more than just an accessory, it is a statement. In my line of work, matchmaking, I hear all the juicy feedback after my clients go on a date. You might be  surprised to know just how important an expensive handbag is to a single woman. Here is an excerpt from my memoir, Diary of a Beverly Hills Matchmaker that illustrates my point.

 

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Ooh, here’s an email from Jack, the guy who sent me the flowers for introducing him to Carmella. This should be good news.

Marla
Well, unfortunately Carmella is not for me. We really hit it off and she is unbelievably beautiful, that is for sure, but when we were in Vegas, we went into a store and she picked up a $1,200 purse, handed it to me and TOLD me to buy it for her. I told her that I don’t operate that way and that she is high maintenance. I don’t think she liked it, because she copped an attitude for the rest of the trip, which really ruined things. Still, I am really not looking for someone so spoiled. Thanks and talk to you soon.
Jack

Now, I appreciate a great handbag as much as any woman, but this is ridiculous. What a shame. They would have made a stunning couple. Then I notice an email from Carmella.

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Dear Marla,
Well, it’s over between me and Jack. We went to Vegas and I thought we were having a good time, but then he had to go and call me “high maintenance.”
There is no need for him to call me names.
Carmella

Dear Carmella,
Here is some invaluable advice: Even if a man is extremely wealthy, if a woman starts asking for expensive gifts from the get go, he will either think that she is only interested in him for what he can buy her, or that if they were married, she will drain his bank account, or both.
Once you are in an exclusive relationship with a successful man, he will most likely spoil you, but not within the first week of meeting.
Marla

Dear Marla,
Unless he lives under a rock, he’d have to know just by looking at me that I like nice things. He could see my clothes, my expensive watch.
Have the rules of the game changed?
Carmella

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Marla Martenson, matchmaker & author of Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting.

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