Honesty is Such a Simple Word


Honesty is Such a Simple Word
Is it better just to be honest with someone if there is no attraction?

I once introduced a couple, Will and Lena. Will was crazy about Lena, after their first date, he e-mailed me and listed all of the wonderful things about her and how excited he was to get to know her better. He said that there was definitely chemistry. Lena also expressed how much she liked Will and was excited to see him again.  Lena was 44 and Will was 65. Age was not a problem for Lena as she liked older men. A few weeks went by, they had seen each other a few times. Then I got an e-mail from Will asking me if I had any feedback for him regarding Lena, he felt that she had cooled a bit. I gave her a call and she told me that although he was fabulous and had all of the qualities that she was looking for in a man, he was almost a dead ringer for her father, She said that it was not the age, it was his looks and even the way he carried himself. She just could not “go there.”  She told me that she was planning to call him and make-up some excuse like she met someone else, or that she was just too busy to date now. I asked her “Why not just tell him the truth? He can’t help it if he looks like your father, he would appreciate knowing the real reason, I am certain of it.” “Well,” she said, “I don’t want to hurt his feelings, so maybe I should make something up.” 

Ladies, Will would have been disappointed either way, whether Lena told him the truth or made something up, so why not just be honest? Men really appreciate being told the truth, it helps them with dating in the future and they respect a woman who is honest.
The old adage, “Honesty is the best policy” really is true.

Article contributed by

Marla Martenson


Marla Martenson, matchmaker & author of Diary of a Beverly Hills Matchmaker

Location: Los Angeles, CA
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