How To Date Like A Dude

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Six tendencies of single men that women would benefit from emulating.

3. Men ease into relationsips. Men usually don't go exclusive with a woman after only one or two dates. They prefer to keep their options open and see what else is out there.

I am always a bit surprised when a female client will call me up and say, "Marla, don't match me up anymore, I just met someone and we really hit it off, he's everything that I'm looking for, thanks." Or worse, when I match a woman with one of my male clients and after the first date, she doesn't want to meet anyone else, but I know for a fact that he is still dating to see whom he feels the most chemistry with.

I tell these ladies to date like men and keep their options open. If it doesn't work out with this guy who is everything you are looking for, you will still be out there meeting people and have a few irons in the fire. You won't feel as hurt or disappointed if he moves on when you have other options.

4. Men don't discuss everything. Men don't talk about their relationships or where things are going. They are more into action than words. I personally don't believe in love at first sight; however, I do believe in lust at first sight. Just see how things go, let him prove himself to you, make sure that he has the qualities that you are looking for in another person. And if you have to ask where the relationship is going, frankly, it's goin' nowhere. 

I hear women all of the time referring to their boyfriend, or talking about how they are in a relationship with a guy, and they just met him three weeks ago! Until you have been dating exclusively for at least a few months, you are not in a relationship, you are dating the guy. I remember talking to one of my girlfriends once about the guy she was dating and she said testily, "We're not dating, we're together." 'Oh, excuse me,' I thought. They weren't married, living together or engaged, so I would call that dating.

5. Men don't overanalyze things, including their dates. Women will try to figure out what the guy meant when he said this or that, or what it meant that he called at a certain time. It's exhausting. Men just go on their merry way, dating and having a good time while women are driving themselves crazy trying to be a psychic, psychiatrist, or mind reader about every little thing he says or does. Keep reading ...

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