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Are Celebrity Relationships The Standard We Strive For?


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What can we learn in our own relationships from celebrities?

I know that I shouldn't be, but I am always shocked at how short lived so many celebrity relationships are. It seems that every day there is another couple calling it quits. Just in the past couple of months we have heard that Dennis Quaid and wife Kimberly Buffington-Quaid are divorcing. Eva Longoria and boyfriend Edwardo Cruz are calling it quits, Marcia Gay Harden has decided to end her marriage to Thaddaeus Scheel after 15 years, and on and on.

Equally as interesting is finding out which celebs are hooking up. The latest wowser is the news that Halle Berry and that sexy French actor, Olivier Martinez are engaged. I have been a long time fan of Martinez. How sexy was he in the film Unfaithful with Diane Lane? Oh la la.

This union is almost too good to be true. Two of the sexiest, most talented people on the planet uniting in holy matrimony. It is magical! Now, let's see how long this lasts. At least 50% of marriages end in divorce and in Hollywood, it's gotta be at least 90%. At least it seems that way. We love to look at celeberity unions as sort of royalty and dream that that can happen for us as well.

What can we learn something from this? That nothing lasts forever? Some things are just too good to be true? I believe in soul mate love, real, lasting, wonderful, sparkly stuff. The problem arises when the dream and idea that everything will be perfect once I am with my soul mate is what is often the catylist for a break up. Relationships are a work in progress. They are ever evolving and one must work at having a healthy and harmonious one. Keeping egos in check, not blaming the other person for our own issues, and allowing the other person to be themselves without trying to change them can be challenging.

Realizing that another person cannot save you from your issues, or make your life perfect, that is something that you need to handle yourself, well, that is when the magic really does start to happen.

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