50 Things You Should Try For Hotter Sex

Appreciating What You've Got


Appreciating What You've Got
Appreciate what you have and improve your relationship.

Thanksgiving is a time to give thanks and reflect on what is truly important in life. Relationships can be stressful especially around the holidays. If you are divorced, there might be arguments with the ex over who has the kids, or stress with the new person in his life. Financial difficulties can also come into play when trying to have a harmonious relationship. Or your mate can just be working your last nerve!

Try to remember what you love about the man in your life and think about what he might be going through.

More from YourTango: No Whimps Allowed: Handling Dating Rejection With Grace

Here is a great tip to instantly feel more calm and bring some much needed bliss into your day. Sit down in a quiet place. If you have a full house, you might even have to go sit in a closet. Anywhere will do, as long as you are alone and it's quiet. Light a candle.  Slowly breathe in and out 5 deep breaths. Breathe in..... breathe out... picture a beam of white light entering though the top of your head and filling your whole body.

More from YourTango: Are You The Marrying Kind & Is It Really Possible To Have It All?

Next think of five things that you love and appreciate about your significant other. It might just be that he has an amazing smile, he is a great at fixing things around the house, or he gives a great foot rub. But think of five positive things. Then, think of five wonderful things about yourself and acknowledge what a special person you are.

After spending time with yourself in gratitude, watch how things shift. Let me know your results.


Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Marla Martenson


Marla Martenson, matchmaker & author of Diary of a Beverly Hills Matchmaker

Location: Los Angeles, CA
Credentials: Other
Other Articles/News by Marla Martenson:

No Whimps Allowed: Handling Dating Rejection With Grace


Dating and rejection, these two words often seem to go hand-in-hand. It is just part of the equation. Chemistry is not something that can be predicted. So even if the date goes well, that romantic spark might not be there. I remember when I was out there in the dating pool seeking a soul mate. I had a strategy for deciding if the guy should get a second ... Read more

Are You The Marrying Kind & Is It Really Possible To Have It All?


I'm a big Chelsea Handler fan. I love her confidence, her wit and her honesty. She has been in the news lately for her comment regarding marriage where she said she's "not the marrying kind." In an interview with Gwyneth Paltrow, seen here on the Huffington Post, Handler says, "The truth of the matter is, I don't really know how to ... Read more

On Aging Gracefully And Being (Naturally) Gorgeous In Your 60s


In our youth obsessed culture, many women feel the pressure to stay as young looking as possible for as long as possible. Sadly, this pressure can lead some women to take drastic measures such as plastic surgery. Many of these procedures can be dangerous or turn out badly, leaving the woman regretting such a desperate move. In my opinion, the most beautiful ... Read more

See More

Recent Expert Posts

Emotional Vampires: Skills for Dealing with the Narcissist

Expert, Margaret Jacobson shares insights gained from Albert Bernstein's, book Emotional Vampires


One-liners Guaranteed to Turn Up the Heat

Want some off the hook sex tonight? Use words as foreplay!

Make A Move

Forgiveness : The Most Important "F-Word".

Forgive so that the past no longer holds you back. It is time to move forward.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no timeā€¦

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>