Where do you want to go?
Knowing that your destination is a green two-story house on 21 Elm Street in Denver makes it a lot easier to get there than if you were just headed to a house somewhere in North America. Sure there may be interesting or enticing detours that are offered to us, but pain, suffering, and loss tend to come from 'places' that do not resonate with who we are, our purpose for being here, and where our heart really wants us to be.
You can still have spontaneity in relationships and not have to be in conflict with your values, purpose, and vision. No matter what happens you stand a much better chance of winding up where you want to go if you know where you're headed. Without a vision people tend to wander through life and relationships aimlessly or remain fenced in by undesirable boundaries. Whatever you come up with, know that your heart-desires and vision will lead you towards freedom and joy, even if that means letting go of something or someone.
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What will it take to get there?
The better strategy and route you have put in place, the more likely you will succeed in your destination or vision. Along your journey you will have needs and face obstacles. If you have a clear idea of what your needs will be ahead of time, you will more gracefully achieve your vision. Journaling can be a good way to help expose how you operate and what may be in your way. Your obstacle could be a person, place, or thing. It could be an attitude, perception, habit, or belief system. Exposing these allows you to design strategies to better navigate them. Your natural excellence will tend to emerge when what’s in the way is reduced or removed. Then you can successfully wind up where your heart originally wanted to take you.
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There is a way to move through life with a more awakened heart. Asking and listening for the answers to these 5 important questions can be a beneficial and fulfilling way to journey, and if you'd like support to clarify what’s in your heart, feel free to connect with me by phone or email.