A key to remember is that Consistency is a double-edged sword. It’s just as easy to become consistent with behavior that supports bad habits as it is with behavior that is positive. I’ll use myself as an example. When I was younger I was a world class athlete. After an injury derailed my chances at professional career and I grew into adulthood, it became easy to get out of the routine of working out, going to the gym, and staying peak physical condition. Those bad habits were a consistent behavior. Seemingly overnight, I’d notice my pants getting too tight, I’d remind myself that changing my behavior would help me stay in shape. It gave me an opportunity to readjust and reinforce consistent positive behavior patterns.
Let me make one point clear. Being consistent does not mean you should be completely inflexible. These secrets are not about creating a policy and procedure manual for raising kids. It’s about raising the happiest and most well adjusted kids possible while enjoying the journey together with our kids. The art of parenting is knowing how to make the flexibility the exception rather than the rule.
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Mark Papadas is a nationally recognized children’s empowerment expert and author of the highly acclaimed book “10 Secrets to Empower Kids and Awaken the Child in You” as well as President of The I AM 4 Kids Foundation – a recognized 501c3 charity committed to providing its personal empowering programs to public schools across the U.S. at NO COST to the SCHOOLS.
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