There is an old saying, “Actions speak louder than words.” While this may seem harsh to some of you reading this, what I am about to say may be the most important thing in this article. If you don’t lead by example, your words to your child are EMPTY. They hear you say one thing and see you doing another. While they may be too young to have a vocabulary word for it, kids recognize the hypocrisy. Everyone, regardless of age, wants to know that they can trust the people who are closest to them. If a person’s words and actions are incongruent, a shadow of doubt is placed in the mind of the recipient. Can I really trust what this person says? Do you want your kids thinking this about you? And, as they get older, they will find someone (or a group of people like a gang) whose actions and words are congruent with each other – either positive or negative. Wouldn’t you rather be the trusted source for your kids?
Mark Papadas is a nationally recognized children’s empowerment expert and author of the highly acclaimed book “10 Secrets to Empower Kids and Awaken the Child in You” as well as President of The I AM 4 Kids Foundation – a recognized 501c3 charity committed to providing its personal empowering programs to public schools across the U.S. at NO COST to the SCHOOLS.