5 Reasons Thanksgiving Is A Great Time For Divorcées

By Marina Pearson. Posted on Nov 22nd 2012.

Don't dread the holidays just because you're going through a tough time.

'Oh my god, it's a few days until Thanksgiving and I am on my own. This is going to be the worst one ever.' This is what I thought to myself a month after my ex-husband and I separated.

Living in the Big Apple at the time and not being American made me feel worse. I had learned by that point that Thanksgiving in the United States was a big deal, and that year I was going to have to celebrate it on my own. At least that is what I thought.

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Thanksgiving that year turned out to be an enormous gift as I got to experience the love and generosity from people I hardly knew who invited me to their home to celebrate in their cheer. I found the experience extremely healing and for a moment or two, I took the focus off how awful I felt to immerse myself in the generosity of others.

After this experience, I took some time to reflect and realized that Thanksgiving is a time that can actually help you heal from divorce, and here are five reasons why:

1. It's an opportunity to connect with the people you love. Whether you are from the United States or not, it's a time to connect with people you love. As it is a national holiday, take advantage of the fact that others also now have the time off too. Spending time with those who love and care for you can be a very healing experience and can help you to get your mind off your divorce, your ex and any other problems the divorce has brought with it.

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2. It's a chance to take yourself away to greener pastures. I have found when working with clients and having experienced it first hand — there are certain environments that can trigger us off emotionally. I don't know whether you have found yourself walking past your favorite bar or restaurant you used to frequent and find yourself blubbering as the memories of the happy times come rushing back? If you have, then taking yourself away from your usual environment can be extremely healing as you can start to make new memories for yourself and your future. Continue reading ...

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