Are You Wracked With Guilt Over An Affair?

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Five steps toward self-forgiveness and moving on from someone who has been there herself.

However, one day I realized that if I didn't forgive myself, I wouldnt be able to live in peace or bring proper happiness to anyone else around me. Because I was too consumed byt beating myself up, there was no room for me to give back to others. When I realized this, I knew it was time to change and give back.

Ask yourself, "What kind of person would so something like this?" Once you have the answer, ask, "What beautiful gifts does this sort of person give me?" Keep going until you have a long list and you feel grateful for having this part of you in you.

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2. Practice acceptance. I had to accept that what was done was done. I had to accept that I'd had an affair and I had caused a lot of suffering. The practice of acceptance got me to face up to what I had done and how many people had got hurt. At this point of acceptance I realized I had no other choice other than to accept where I was.

Acceptance is a very important part to being able to move on. The word comes from the Latin word acquiescence, which means, "to find rest in." Acceptance will also stop you struggling from wishing it had not happened the way it did or you hurt the people you did. Once you stop the struggle with your own reality, calmness will start to take its place.

3. Surrender your feelings to a higher power. Offer up your feelings to a higher power. I know this may sound woo-woo, but it really works! We are part of a bigger plan. We are not necessarily in charge of the outcome. By doing this you will be getting out of your own way and you will sink into your own trust and faith that all will be well.

The minute you do this, miracles start to happen; situations and opportunities start to open up you didn't even think were possible. At least this is what I have experienced and have also seen in my clients. Keep reading ...

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