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5 Tips On How To Fall In Love With Valentines Day

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Find out 5 ways you can make Valentines Day the best day ever after your divorce or break-up.

You have now said goodbye to mr ex and the question is now "What's next?" Dating after divorce can be gut wrenching and intimidating, especially if you were never with anyone else, other than your ex. With Valentines Day on the horizon you may find yourself dreading the day as you see couples coming together to show their love for one another, which only exacerbates your feelings of loneliness.

If you are a single woman, here are 5 Tips to get you in the mood and out of the dread, so you can take advantage of the day versus hiding under the covers.

1) Buy yourself something really nice
Valentines Day is about love. However no-one ever said that you couldn't buy something nice for you. Rather than waiting for someone else to buy you what you want, why not go do it yourself? Think about what you would want to be gifted by your ideal date and go buy it! So what will it be? Flowers, chocolates, some nice negligee??

It may feel uncomfortable at first, but the first step in attracting a new relationship in your life is to become who you want to attract. Loving yourself harder is a sure way to find someone to love you more quickly.

To find out how you can trully fall in love with yourself again, download your free chapters of my new book Goodbye Mr Ex

2) Do something you haven't done before
Use the day to do something really nice for yourself that you have never done on your own before. Just like with the gift, spoil yourself with going for a massage, sauna or even take yourself out for dinner! Why expect someone else to take you out for dinner, when you won't?

3) Get together with other single friends
If having dinner on your own is all too daunting, then make a date of it with single friends. Now, if most of your friends are still in relationships then see if spending time with them is a option.

If you have been single for a while, take this opportunity to join groups where you can meet people who are single and who can becomes friends. Sometimes when a relationship finishes you may have find that your social circle changes and its important to venture out and attract a new social circle if you want to truly move on.

4) Create a love nest at home
If you don't want to go out or cannot, Then create a love nest at home. Turn your environment into a place that makes you feel loved and gives you at feeling that love is in the air (with yourself).

Light some candles, decorate the house with flowers, surround yourself with some loving music and immerse yourself in the beauty around you.

To find out how you can avoid feeling lonely, download your free chapters of my new book Goodbye Mr Ex.

5) Do something nice for someone else
The power of giving is so powerful. Even though you may not feel at your best, there are people who are worse off. People who are homeless or sick may need your help. Wouldn't it be amazing to give back to those that need it most on a day that represents love?

Not only will it make you feel amazing, but you will be making a massive difference to those who you decide to volunteer the help for.

In short, Valentines Day can turn into a day of self love and giving. Celebrate who you are and what you have got! As you indulge you will see you have a lot!

To connect with Marina Pearson, go to www.DivorceShift.com and read more of her blogs

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