4) He taught me healthy self responsibility
To take responsibility for your life is a gift. To not blame others for my shortcomings has been the biggest blessing that I have been given. Why? Because, the moment we take healthy self-responsibility for what we have created and realise that our ex is just holding up a mirror, we have the power to change whatever we don’t like. Bitterness will eat you up and will destroy your self confidence. Blaming him for dumping you on Valentines Day wont change the fact that he did so - the only person you can change is you. By taking healthy self-responsibility you can change the meaning that you have given to this particular situation.
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5) I have learned to challenge my thoughts. At any point you are attached to any negative meaning to a situation, it will make you sad. Part of the reason I felt worse than I would have done if he had dumped me on a different day is because I had also built a story around how Valentine's Day was the worst day that he could have done it on. Really? Why? Because I had decided to make a song and dance about it. However it is important to challenge the meaning you have created so that you can free yourself of the disappointment.
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