TIP 4: Make sure that you are both in a financial situation that you can do fun stuff together. Because he was paying his way towards his kids didnt earn a huge pay check, this liimited what we could do with our time together. I really wanted to travel a lot more, so when I did travel, I would travel on my own as he had financial commitments that he needed to keep to. If he did travel with me, I would willingly pay for him.
However, men being men, he wanetd to pay and this would frustrate him, and also frustrate me that he couldn't. If our income and financial situation had been similar we wouldnt have had this problem. So to avoid it, check this out first!
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DATING MISTAKE 5: We spent very little quality time together.
TIP 5: Make sure you make time for the relationship when you are dating.
I know this may sound really obvious, but you would be surprised at how "life" can get in the way. Especially if he has kids. This one was a big one for us both as he worked shifts and when he was working nights it was challenging to see each other. Also most weekends he wanted to see the children, which meant that there were weekends that we spent apart as I had other commitments.
Its normal that he prioritized the children.I wouldnt have expected anything less, but it definitely put a spanner in the works for us to just enjoy our time. Now if he doesnt have kids then still be present to this situation as in our modern day life, spending quality time can be challenging.
Avoid these mistakes and you could be well on the way of having a great time and making it work for you.
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