The Return of Monica Lewinsky

By

The Return of Monica Lewinsky
Monica Lewinsky is back from obscurity. Are we still scandalized?

Monica Lewinsky ascended into infamy in 1998 as a result of her affair with President Bill Clinton. She was 22. He 52. During the many trials and hearings that followed, resulting in Bill Clinton's impeachment, Monica Lewinsky repeatedly refused to testify against the president who was accused of using his presidential power to bully this "innocent young woman" into submission. Many speculated that the Clintons paid Monica for her silence. Only a few argued that perhaps what drove Monica was an everyday commonplace infatuation (to stop short of using the "L" word — love).  A romance with a thirty-year age difference is intriguing to us, at best, and scandalous at worse. 

Even today, sixteen years later, the media is abuzz with the news of Monica's return from obscurity even before her actual interview with Vanity Fair is supposed to hit the stands on May 13th.  So why is it so difficult for us to imagine a world where a 22 year old girl has genuine and intense amorous feelings toward her 52 year old boss? The reasons may be many.

Let's examine a few reasons a 22 year old would be attracted to her older boss:

1. Power is attractive  Henry Kissinger once said that power was the ultimate aphrodisiac. Powerful men are attractive because they are confident, they have the ability to make excellent decisions and they can get things done.  Can you say SEXY?

2. Women are naturally attracted to leaders For thousands of years, women chose men who are natural leaders to be able to protect and provide for their families. Bill Clinton led the leading country in the free world. Does one achieve a higher leadership position?

3. The 'Daddy Syndrome'— Many little girls relied on their fathers to make them feel safe and comfortable.  As they grow up, many girls still look to older men, as father figures, to achieve the same level of familiarity and contentment.

4. Sexually experienced  Let’s face it. The best way to perfect any skill is through practice… lots of it.  The older the man, the more practice he had.  And he is usually more than happy to endow his 'expertise' onto a younger woman.

5. Maturity  Many girls do not want to date a man whose activities do not get past the third round of Call of Duty and whose income comes from Mom and Dad.  Many young women like the idea of a man who can teach them about the world; they appreciate the art of conversation and the chance to learn form someone who’s had years of experience and wisdom.

So before we resume one of our favorite past-times of throwing rocks at Bill Clinton for "seducing a young woman," let's all hear Monica’s side of the story.  We may learn a few lessons.

More celebrity sex on YourTango:

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Marina Margulis

Matchmaker

New York Socials is an exclusive members-only dating club. We operate on principle that dating should be easy and natural. To achieve that, we organize Socials for our club members. Socials are cocktail parties where we introduce men to a number of women carefully preselected for them.

For more information, please visit my website at New York Socials.

Read my blog at Blog

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: CPC, Other
Other Articles/News by Marina Margulis:

20 Worst Pick Up Lines

By

Last night, as yours truly was occupying a seat on a subway platform bench, leafing through the newly obtained Rubin Museum Catalogue, I was approached by a young man in his twenties.  At first he complimented me on my hair. I said “thank you” and continued to leaf.  Then he mumbled something.  I asked what he wanted- twice.  He ... Read more

Are You Paying Attention To Your Date?

By

The other night I had a really late dinner at my neighborhood Bistro. Because of the hour (and the weather not being very conducive to late eaters or romantics), the bistro was empty.  That gave me an opportunity to witness the following scene (in the mirror, of course, as I would never stare at people openly!) At about 9:30, a man in his late thirties, ... Read more

Who Is Afraid Of The Dating Coach?

By

There is something about the words "dating coach" that disturbs many men. Whereas women gobble up tons of pounds of self-help literature, men prefer to take stabs in the darkness when it comes to dating advice, and go at it alone. Most are convinced they do not need help even if they have been single and trying for decades with not much to show for ... Read more

See More

PARTNER POSTS
Latest Expert Videos
Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

Most Popular