50 Things You Should Try For Hotter Sex
ProConnect

Your Relationship As The Model For Your Children

By

Your Relationship As The Model For Your Children
Your relationship is such a vital part of how your children will feel about being a couple.

As parents, we are in a role of teaching our children so many things to help them prepare for adulthood. It is an important job, a difficult job and a very rewarding one. Our primary goal to to ensure that our children enter adulthood with sufficient skills in the areas of education, relationships, emotions and basic life skills so that they need to navigate successfully, both professionally and personally.family in sunset

Developing healthy, fulfilling relationships is perhaps the most important piece in experiencing happiness and contentment as adults. With a secure, loving and safe bond with another person, your child will feel supported and connected and able to manage the many challenges life throws his or her way.

More from YourTango: 5 Warning Signs That Your Marriage May Be Heading For A Divorce

People that report feeling connected to others also report a greater satisfaction in their lives. Knowing this, the role parents play becomes ever more central to helping children learn about healthy relationships, strong attachments, bonding, trust, loyalty and security. If children can develop a secure attachment to their parents or a primary caregiver, then they will have this as their template for their own relationships with friends, family and a partner.

HOW DO WE, AS PARENTS, BUILD A SECURE ATTACHMENT TO OUR CHILDREN?

1. Be a role-model - showing a caring, trusting, supportive relationship for your children is VITAL to helping them see and experience a relationship that works - one in which the answer to the question "Are you there for me?" is "YES!" This doesn't mean that you and your partner never argue or disagree - what is means is that when they see you doing this, you don't resort to saying terrible things to each other, hurting each other, physically, or giving the silent treatment. It means they see you also resolve the issue and make amends with one another and return to a connection and positive relationship.

More from YourTango: Creating Secure Attachments: Know Your Boundaries

2. Empathize and listen to your child's feelings - don't dismiss or discount their feelings. For example, if your son comes up to you and is crying because someone took his toy, reflect back to him - "You must be very sad about that. What do you need from me? Can I give you a hug to help you?". He'll feel that having sad feelings is OK and that you want to help him and are there to listen. This allows him or her to experience the feeling of "mirroring" where you reflect an understanding of his feelings. If this happens, he or she will know that they deserve that within a relationship in the future.

3. Be there when they need you - when your adolescent is upset about something - put down your work, ignore the cell phone, turn off the TV and just be there with your child - take the time to show you're available - even if they're not ready to discuss what's on their mind. Having you near by may be enough of a comfort and message that you care and are there to listen. You will be amazing at how often, if teenagers feel safe and secure, they will eventually open up to share their worries and concerns.

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Marie Caterini Choppin

Counselor/Therapist

Marie Caterini Choppin, LCSW-C & Associates
COUNSELING FOR CONTENTMENT LLC
Strengthening resilience and nurturing secure attachments within couples, families and individuals.

www.CounselingForContentment.com
mchoppin@counselingforcontentment.com
301-625-9102

OFFICE LOCATIONS:
4405 East-West Hwy, Suite 508
Bethesda, MD 20814

10000 Colesville Road
Silver Spring, MD 20901

ASSOCIATE:
Gail Schumann, LCSW-C
301-906-3776
gail@counselingforcontentment.com

Elana Benatar, LCSW-C

elana@counselingforcontentment.com

Nickie Haine

nickie@counselingforcontentment.com

Join our professional Facebook page at: http://www.facebook.com/mchoppin48
Follow us on twitter: https://twitter.com/MarieChoppinMSW
Visit our blog: www.CounselingForContentment.com/blog

The materials in this e-mail are private and may contain Protected Health Information. If you are not the intended recipient be advised that any unauthorized use, disclosure, copying, distribution or the taking of any action in reliance on the contents of this e-mail is strictly prohibited. If you have received this e-mail in error, please notify the sender via telephone at 301-625-9102, or by return e-mail. Thank you.

Location: Bethesda, MD
Credentials: LCSW-C
Other Articles/News by Marie Caterini Choppin:

5 Warning Signs That Your Marriage May Be Heading For A Divorce

By

Most marriages have times when one or both partners feel disconnected, discontented and just plain confused and overwhelmed about whether their marriage can survive.  Knowing the warning signs before the relationship is too damaged can help you to step back, take an honest look at your marriage, get some professional help and hopefully, save your marriage ... Read more

Creating Secure Attachments: Know Your Boundaries

By

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi This is a wonderful quote to think about when you are in a relationship or seeking one. Often, in my work with couples, I have found that the tension and negative cycle that they get stuck in are really about their ... Read more

See More

Recent Expert Posts
Make A Move

Forgiveness : The Most Important "F-Word".

Forgive so that the past no longer holds you back. It is time to move forward.

Trouble In Paradise

5 Signs Your Marriage is At Risk

Learn the warning signs for divorce so you can avoid a crisis and find ways to turn things around.

woman sending naked pic

Before You Hit Send: The Cold, Hard Truth About Sending Nude Pics

Ever thought about sharing nude photos or sexting with a new guy? Read on to know what to watch for.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

Resources
How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>
HOT STUFF!
FROM OUR PARTNERS