Freud, as brilliant as he was, defined just two types of female orgasm– vaginal and clitoral. To me, that’s like saying the world is flat! As groundbreaking and invaluable Alfred Kinsey’s statistics on women’s orgasms in America in the mid-twentieth century have been, we have come a long way since then. Dr. Masters and Virginia Johnson studied thousands of women having orgasms in their laboratory. However they focused almost exclusively on the physiological aspects of the sexual response cycle. As important as their research has been, that’s like saying life is about heartbeats, blood flow, and sweat glands. A number of people have come up with a variety of models of the female orgasm. Here are mine.
My methodology has been to experience as many kinds of female orgasm as I possibly could. My body, heart, and soul have been a laboratory for research on the female orgasm. I have come—literally—to know that an excellent way to learn about the many kinds of female orgasm is to have many varieties of lovers, and have as many varieties of sexual experiences as possible. Every sex partner has different sexual skills, styles, and assets, and every sex partner no matter how gifted, has their limitations. From the age of eighteen to twenty-eight I had approximately 3,500 sex partners, and experienced sex in a huge variety of ways.
Since I became monogamous, the kinds of orgasms I have are far more limited. I am not suggesting that sexologists researching orgasm should go out and do what I did. I simply want to share some of my findings. Orgasms are like grains of sand; no two are exactly alike. Examine each grain of sand closely enough and you will see huge differences in each one. You can put them into categories—brown grains, white grains, and Pink grains…etc. Still within each sub-category is enormous variety. The same thing happens when you try to group types of orgasm. It is important to bare in mind that one grain of sand is not better or worse than another. And one kind of orgasm is not better or worse than another. They are simply different. Hopefully my way of categorizing the female orgasm will be helpful in some small way. Perhaps it will help stimulate further discussion, exploration, and research. Keep reading...
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