Become Monique, the Maid. This one’s been written about often enough, but apparently it still works. Rent a French maid’s outfit from any costume shop (we’re talking about the tiny, short one worn with fishnet stockings, not the one featured on “The Help.”) Purchase a feather duster and shiny black heels and you are good to go. Wait on your partner hand-and-foot, and he’ll be begging for more.
For the more sedate
Sex isn’t synonymous with romance; they aren’t mutually inclusive. There are a number of things you can try for the sake of romance alone. You may wish to cuddle and share warm feelings, and these ideas will certainly invite loving feelings between you and your partner.
Fix a gourmet meal. Shop for the ingredients together and have a great time in the kitchen producing a masterpiece, or not. So what your tomato sauce is dripping. . . your steak is too charred. It doesn’t matter if neither of you is great at cooking; what matters is that you’re doing this as a team.
Go walking in the evening, hand and hand under the stars. Glance up every now and then and see which stars you can identify. Watch as the moonlight falls across your lover’s face and notice how his/her eyes twinkle.
Try a Boat Cruise A number of cities have boat cruises that also feature dinner and dancing. Check to see if your town features such an activity and make an evening of it, dancing the night away.
Spa Anyone? Whisk your partner away to a spa and luxuriate as the two of you enjoy the atmosphere of peace. You need not speak or communicate. Just relax as the two of you share Nirvana.
Start A Love Journal. Give your partner a journal of poems and loving affirmations, which you wrote, geared toward them. Tell them you love them because . . . . [fill in the blanks]
Record a CD of the music that has defined your relationship. Whether it be jazz or love ballads, or prime time funk, your lover will appreciate your thoughtfulness.
For your anniversary, give your partner the same number of gifts as the years you have been together. For example, if you’re celebrating your fifth anniversary, present your partner with five orchids, or five roses, or five delicate pieces of chocolate. Present a gift five days in a row.
Relationships can be spruced up and spiced up; it only takes a little effort and imagination to flip from stodgy to superb! Work it!