Beginning a new relationship holds such promise: your heart races a little faster when the one you love is near; every comment they make is funny, witty, enthralling; you feel like you’re walking on sunshine; you love their dimples; the way they walk; the way they talk; you’re usually willing to overlook any gaffes they make. And then, things get a little . . . old.
Like B.B. King sang so plaintively, “The Thrill is Gone” and you yearn for the times when all was golden. You have feelings for each other, but you find them fading, even as your relationship grows more stodgy and tepid. That “same-ole” - “same-ole” is about to drive you insane.
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What to do? What to do?
To learn how to spice up a relationship, think about trying these on for size and see if your relationship not only perks up, but does a 360 degree turn-around.
For the truly adventurous:
Try erotica. There are sex-toy parties galore proliferating the landscape and you’d be surprised at who all attends - business women, church ladies, and your neighbors, Jill and Sue. These are not your grandma’s sex toy parties! And, the merchandise not only overwhelms, but gets snatched up pretty quickly. You are not the only one trying to liven up a stale relationship (and/or perhaps satisfy yourself?) Hmmm?
Share the shower or bubble-bath and add scented candles in the background. There’s something about water and bare skin and lilac candles that just brings out the sexy in you. Think of it, two sudsy wet lovers all aglow and bubbly clean.
Champagne, strawberries and cream. I will let you imagine how many ways these three ingredients go together. Put on your thinking cap and go for it. If you can’t even imagine one way, you are truly, truly on the verge of being stodgy, stuffy and stale.
Get some hints from the Kamasutra. According to Wikipedia, the Kamasutra is considered to be “the standard work on human sexual behavior in Sanskrit literature written by Vatsyayana.” It illustrates:
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“Chapters on stimulation of desire, types of embraces, caressing and kisses, marking with nails, biting and marking with teeth, on copulation (positions) . . . . It describes 64 types of sexual acts (10 chapters).”
Pick a new location for romance. Try woodsy romance or better yet, sea shore romance for a change. Getting your sexy on does not always have to take place in your bed-room at 9:00 pm after the kiddies are all tucked in. On your next vacation, or just for the heck of it, find a nice secluded location, bring along a blanket, champagne and two wine flutes (strawberries, anyone?) and enjoy romance under a moon-lit sky.
Make the room you choose as romantic as possible, with flower petals and a background of soft candle light. Then give your partner a massage and drip warm oil over his/her body. Have a bowl of grapes (and/or strawberries) handy and soak them in honey before you feed them to your lover.