Authenticity is always in order in this situation
Thinking about leaving the Big Kahuna behind? Had enough of his crap? You can’t deal with all his inconsistencies? He’s too weak … he’s too bossy … he’s too mellow … he’s too macho … he’s not focused enough … he’s not cool enough … he drinks too much … he cheats … he smokes … whatever. You’ve just had enough and now you need to know how to break up with your boyfriend.
Regardless of what he’s too much or too little of, break-ups can be and often are, devastating and if you’re the one doing the breaking-up, then please, by all means, do it kindly. Be authentic. It’s shallow (and pretty cruel) under most circumstances to dump him by email, voice mail or tweet and have him find out, along with 500 of his closest friends, that he’s been gotten rid of. There’s an old axiom that applies here - Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, also interpreted as what goes around comes around. Just as you would feel miserable having someone dump you like a can of garbage, so would the other person. Being considerate of someone else’s feelings is the mature thing to do. It simply pays to take the high road. “When can I take the low road?” you ask. Huh? When? When? You don’t, and that’s the point.
Before we get to breakup methods, first of all be resolute that this is what you really, really choose to do. No “well. . . maybe’s.” Make certain you’ve come to the conclusion that you’re better off without this person and this relationship has no chance of surviving in its present form. You’ve really worked to strengthen it (if it had potential), but it’s a losing cause.
Ok, remember that song, Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover?, well here are a few methods you can use to learn how to break up with your boyfriend:
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